Dag 796 – The effect of writing

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I have written a blog in Dag 794 – A moment of change where in I found out the following:

” So this means in this example, that what I am used to do and look at within myself is the following way: “Can I have a drink now and then at home alone, although I see that this is not best for myself eventually and so I ‘know’ in a way that somehow/somewhere I need to (and will) stop this/step out of this again? And then I ‘check’ within myself if I see myself able to stop/step out of it in the the future”. If the answer is “yes, I can stop/step out of this in the future when and as needed”, then I decide many times to still ‘do it’ and actually ‘go get my bliss’. Until ‘I am done’ with it or until I cannot have it anymore, and then I stop. And then I need to walk through the build up layers again of emotional/feeling release. So I am actually used to walk through points the long way and more or less even believed that I ‘have to do it like this’ in many occasions.”

In this blog I took an example of drinking a glass of wine at home; however I have seen myself doing this in different situations where an ‘energy-addiction’ is involved – meaning where I want to experience something before I am willing / able to stop it. This is so I see now, actually a form of self-manipulation and when others are involved – as for example within starting a relationship before being totally clear on the possibilities of it – then it automatically includes a manipulation towards another as well, although my intention is not to ‘manipulate’. But my starting-point contains this – maybe subtle – energetic self-manipulation and so, my starting-point will determine the outcome and so manipulation will take place in some form. And what I accept and allow within myself, I will accept and allow in another as well and so the reflection of this inner self-manipulation will show itself in the situation and / or within another and often in a larger degree, so that I will not miss it.

After writing the blog, I noticed that I now have seen this point, this tendency to firstly ‘follow the energy before stopping and pushing myself to the edge before I stop’ and so actually….I am not able to accept and allow myself to do this anymore. So now, when I do see a situation where in I am not 100% clear or sure, I am not able to accept and allow myself to ignore the ‘nagging presence’ in the background and move on with it anyway, in some way ‘hoping’ that it will solve itself miraculously, because I now have seen, realized and understand that it will not solve itself miraculously but the outcome / consequence will show exactly that what I have ignored at first in my starting-point.

This is an example of how the writing out of one practical example – if and when done from a starting-point of self-honesty and self-direction – will very much support with this one general point / tendency in many occasions in my life. This also shows how resistance or even rejection can be experienced with regards to the writing, because I ‘know’ on some level that the writing will be effective and reveal some ‘energy-addictions’ that I accept and allow to distract or actually, manipulate myself with and behind this I find a ‘fear of loss’ of this energy and the experience that it is giving. This experience of ‘fear of loss’ is showing itself as very real, because I made it real, by living it at first, by ‘building a life’ on ‘this belief’ so to speak and so the effect may give an experience of ‘collapsing’ and ‘walking through hell’, as in letting go of the illusions that I was holding on to. Illusions meaning, thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, hopes, dreams and what more, that all seem very ‘real’ in the mind but that is not grounded in a realistic, physical foundation.

So with the writing, I am able to quantify my process and walk it ‘faster’ in a way. I mean, I will walk through all the illusions anyway, also by first following my mind and then needing to let it go again, which is ‘the hard way’ as the letting go can be quite horrible to walk through. With the writing, I do have a tool to support myself, to start preventing myself from following the energy, from following that what is actually not best for myself in self-honesty and so, not best for all in self-honesty. Also here, there is a moment of letting go – as how I described in the blog as well – but it almost directly includes a moment of change, because I did not build up so much layers around it, I did not attach myself in all these layers (that I need to walk back and detach myself from and this ‘hurts’ emotionally) and so the way is much shorter and much more stable.

This is actually what we have done through our whole lives – building layer after layer, following the energy and ‘building a life’ on false beliefs in a way, despite our intentions being ‘good’ in it. One can imagine that walking back does take time, dedication and persistence, as these layers are integrated in our life and our physical bodies. We have become it in a way and we believe that ‘this is who I am’. And, we all did this, we have build relationships on this and so we actually have build a world (through relationships) on this foundation from and within a manipulative starting-point (energy). And this is very much visible in the world and how we exist today in totality. For more context read Relationship Dynamics

I will continue with some self-forgiveness on this point in a blog to come.

As a short feedback after writing the mentioned blog: There are no thoughts coming up anymore in relation to drinking this glass of wine when being at home. In the beginning it did come up now and then and with the support of this blog I was able to directly let it go and as I notice now, it is not a point anymore, it is not coming up as a possibility or desire or need and mostly not even as a thought anymore. That is great self-feedback and self-proof after walking layer after layer as a process through the years of what process actually entails.


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Dag 794 – A moment of change

I am used to drink little to no alcohol. This has not always been the case. During my studying years, I did go out a lot and used more alcohol than was good for my body. So I mostly was drinking with others in the weekends or on free days, however I also remember having some wine in the house and then on Wednesday, started taking a glass in home when being alone and then used some up till the weekend again. I did not feel so well with this and also not with the effect of it and at some point, I decided to stop this because I noticed an addiction pattern in it that bothered me, no matter how small the amount was as for example ‘only one or a half glass of wine’.

Through the years, I brought down the intake up till the point of little to no drinking at all. I still liked the taste of a nice glass of wine but I have seen so much trouble around me and close to me through an abusive intake of alcohol, that I developed a bit of a dislike towards drinking alcohol in general.

I am now living alone again and I noticed that I sometimes felt the ‘need’ (behoefte-Dutchto drink a little wine when being at home and alone, for example ‘a glass of wine before/during cooking’. I tried this out a few times, looking at how to approach this and what the effect is on myself. I was looking at allowing myself to sometimes have a glass of wine during cooking, or deciding to not drink alone at all and keeping a glass of wine as a form of enjoyment when being with someone else – for example a friend or a family member. I still did like the first few sips very much:, the taste and the ‘warm’ effect in the body. But I also noticed the same ‘pattern’ as twenty years before coming up when drinking a glass of wine in the house: I was ‘looking forward to this’; I had an ‘open bottle’ in the house (even when I buy bottles of 250 cc I have this open till next time) that I then tend to take the next day ‘because it is open’; I did feel a bit ‘fuzzy’ after drinking it. Things like that.

After a few times, I decided to not buy this small bottle for myself to keep in the house. At one afternoon, I felt like ‘having a glass of wine’ and was looking if I should buy some or not and how to put this in place for myself. I actually and self-honestly, wanted to keep this drinking for some occasional enjoyment when for example being with a friend and/or having a nice diner, something like that, but I also liked the taste when having a little by myself. However I did not like ‘being busy’ with this in my head, every time that I start cooking for example. I did notice this ‘need’ keeping existing and coming up within me as to fulfill something within myself in these moments. And in that moment, that afternoon, I changed something.

I decided to not go for this ‘need’ and to stick with my initial approach (to occasional have a nice drink together to enjoy as a delicacy). There was this one moment where I needed to walk through an experience of ‘emotional loss’ – I cannot describe exactly what it was. But I noticed, because I had not allowed myself to build it up through time again, that it was only that one moment that I needed to stand with/as myself in this self-honest approach, before the energy decreased and I was through.

In this moment I did see clearly that a build up through time makes it difficult to keep standing when an energy is coming up and ‘trying to take over’ so to speak. This gives many layers and emotional/feeling connections that needs to be ‘disconnected’ and released, that makes it feeling like ‘undoable’ and immens. But in this moment, I saw what the direct way of ‘not accepting and allowing’ is giving me: a strength and deep satisfaction and after this, time and quietness to focus on other things. Because I did not accept and allow to let it become an issue and distraction again.

I was able to do this quickly because I had already walked this path extensively and going there again was not needed to piece myself together. However it now also gives myself a reference of the ‘reward’ so to speak (the peace, satisfaction, quietness and space) of directly/immediately standing with and as my self-honesty – although I may not see everything that is connected on forehand. Where I did see that I am used to check on forehand within myself, ‘if I am able to step out again if needed’. So this means in this example, that what I am used to do and look at within myself is the following way: “Can I have a drink now and then at home alone, although I see that this is not best for myself eventually and so I ‘know’ in a way that somehow/somewhere I need to (and will) stop this/step out of this again? And then I ‘check’ within myself if I see myself able to stop/step out of it in the the future”. If the answer is “yes, I can stop/step out of this in the future when and as needed”, then I decide many times to still ‘do it’ and actually ‘go get my bliss’. Until ‘I am done’ with it or until I cannot have it anymore, and then I stop. And then I need to walk through the build up layers again of emotional/feeling release. So I am actually used to walk through points the long way and more or less even believed that I ‘have to do it like this’ in many occasions.

This is not the most effective way and I can distract myself with this a whole life (and actually I have distracted myself with this many many years already). I now for the first time saw direct the effect of accumulation of energy and what it takes to walk through this and how I can instead, bring myself more and more to this direct/immediate point of standing and change in a moment. And this then can also start accumulating, in a beneficial way, for myself and life as a whole, into and towards my self-honest standing; moment by moment, breath by breath.

After this it did not come up again as a ‘need’ or desire’ to have a glass of wine in the house alone and this is a relief. A thought may come up now and then but not loaded with energy anymore and so not much of my attention is going to this point anymore. That was what I noticed in this one moment of change, that I stand and changed and released and I was through and it was done. Because I had not build up a lot of energetic attachments around it again/anymore. And when it comes up as a thought, I am satisfied with my decision/approach/stand and so I can ‘stand with/as myself’ in this.

As an addition, I decide to drink an occasional glass of wine with others, because this is what I can self-honestly stand with and enjoy as a delicacy; when I at the same time have already proven to myself as walked before, that I will let go and stop drinking any glass of wine if I see that this is better/best for me and/or others in my life in time to come or in a certain period of time.


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Dag 791 – A mourning process and to Rise up

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A while ago I got the ‘advice’ (from myself / my own beingness actually) to take the time to mourn about a relationship ending. I did not really come to a mourning because I did not want it ‘to be over’ and if I go into a mourning, this would mean that it would be ‘over’. Besides this it concerns a difficult situation with many aspects that made it challenging to go into a mourning.

I did had made the step forwards to move on alone, due to the situation only becoming worse for both of us when staying together; however when already being into this situation, I was still refusing to really move through. So I did move myself into ‘what is best for me and both of us’ eventually, however when coming into the actual experiences coming up while walking this direction, I refused to really embrace it / myself in it and make peace with the current situation, holding on to ‘hope’ and future projections of ‘what if’.

When writing this blog I come into this ‘sinking feeling’ again of the sadness and ‘rediculessness’ of the situation. I will write more about it in relation to this situation  – and relationships in general  – with insights and realizations in time to come and what it all has to do with, what systems are involved that makes it so immens to walk through.

Firstly I would like to describe a change in the mourning process that I currently noticed within me.

I had a few activities last week sceduled in. There was a second course afternoon of the mandala-drawing related to the second chakra. I noticed sadness in relation to this ‘area’ and quietly started the drawing. I somehow expected a lot of sadness and messyness within me while drawing and visible within the drawing, however what I expressed on paper looked very harmonious, subtile, soft and almost ‘silent’; like ‘nothing wrong with me’. This supported me to stop a part of the ‘missing’ and to start redefining sexuality, sensuality into a more physical and fulfilling presence instead of an endless experience of  missing and desire, projected on a relationship with another (a process of redefining still to walk).

Then I started to go to a training, a sport-lesson in the new living environment (I changed house and environment). I used to go every week but did not go for 4 months while I was busy with all the moving and renovation of the house. I now have settled down a bit and found myself ready to pick it up; the physical labour became less heavy and I started really ‘missing’ the physical work-outs. I found a gym to start and try out some group-lessons and the first one I participated in was a power-yoga-lesson.

While doing this I noticed a stand coming through within me, a sort of physical stability and satisfaction that I come into within the lessons, due to how a training is set up. This I really like about the group-lessons. After this I went home and sit down to watch a part on tv of ‘the voice of Holland’ that probably everyone is familiar with. I will in a moment describe why I like watching this ‘program’.

It was still in the first rounds. There was a lady coming up, she had introduced herself as that she had moved through a difficult period of many trials and errors and now becoming more present and satisfied within herself. She came up and just stand there, focussed on herself and waiting for the music and when the music started, she started the singing. She did barely nothing more than standing there quite ‘silently’ with regards to her body and only…….singing. It was overwhelming ‘good’ and especially authentic, staying close to herself and it was the song ‘Rise up’ so very suitable to what she described as her situation.

(First link is the record of the song that I speak about and second link the original song with text).

I was sitting and watching and tears rolling over my face and noticing – through that lady and the song – the strength of the decision to ‘rise up’. Here I noticed how a rising up of one (this lady in this case), can be an example for another (me in this case) to do the same, to rise up in our own unique way. It would actually be a waste to not do this, to hold back, because then what we resonate is a ‘holding back’ and so another will pick this up as well and this is not an example that one potentially would like to resonate as what is best for all.

This example describes why I watch a program like the voice of Holland as I enjoy and find it valuable to see (a part of) one’s potential, one-self coming through, in this case within the expression of singing.

I hold this song, the title and the physical experience within me the days after and I noticed a change within me. Where I before was moving through the days within a drowning feeling, I now was able to carefully see a glimpse  ‘beyond it’. It does not ‘end’ with this drowning or sinking, there is more beyond. It was not so that I wanted to ‘give it all up’ before. I did had / have created enough basic foundation for myself in the past 7 years to already ‘know’ that there is more and at the same time, I did come in such a nice living environment in many ways that this is as a ‘soft bed’ for me, catching me while going through the mourning. However the sinking feeling was with me for weeks, every day again, without me knowing where or how it would decrease and still it is with me in a way. But it changed. It is like walking through and awakening from a nightmare; from a dark night and dark nights on end.

I noticed that ‘not living the best of me’ has many aspects involved of why I am not (yet) doing this, however a main aspect that I see is that it is somehow based on revenge. Revenge of the ego. We often and mostly focus on all the deeply saddening reasons, circomstances, influences and what more, however in every situation (if and when certain basics – food, roof, physical care and support – are covered) there comes a time where we are able to stand up and move towards the best version of ourself and if not, it is based on blame, revenge, resentment, no matter how much ‘fear’ is involved. And this is what I noticed within myself: not moving myself forwards, not ‘rising up’ is revenge in itself.

Note: how and where and why we developped it like this, is individual and personal for every one and it takes a process to move ourself through all the painfull, perhaps horryfic and abusive memories, situations, upbringings, circomstances etc etc. so to not baggetalize all the inner and outer horrors in the world, as it is an ‘accumulated nightmare’ in a way as how we have accepted and allowed ourself and this world to be and become.

What I found as well in this mourning process is a start, a decision to start with living words. I am already longer looking at this however I could not get a grip on it of where and how to start that did make sense to me – meaning not from a starting-point of ‘knowledge and information’ as this is ‘not making sense to me’ because it doesnot really integrate and keeps on in that way. I noticed that it first needed to become ‘empty’ in a way within me with actually the only possibility left to recreate and fulfill myself through the start of….living words.

What really supports me in this is to combine it with physical, tangable actions or examples, like how I write here, this can be a song or a training or a drawing. This gives more body and makes it easier for me to ‘embody’ it at the same time while redefining and even finding the words within and while the physical action or example takes place. A whole process ahead, to open up and explore with many options possible to combine it with and bring it into expression, within and as myself and my life.

When we find it in us, let’s Rise up. For the ‘you’ as ourself as Life as a whole. A thousand times. Until we Stand.

To be continued – thanks for reading.

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Dag 786 – Een voorbeeld van wat ik overbreng in resonantie

Vervolg op Dag 785 – Wie ben ik in de woorden die ik spreek?

“In het volgende blog zal ik een voorbeeld beschrijven van een situatie waar ik energetische aanhechtingen mee stuur in mijn woorden en hoe ik waarneem dat dit gebeurt en hoe ik hier vervolgens mee omga binnenin mezelf. Alles natuurlijk beschreven van waaruit ik nu ben in dit proces en van wat ik waarneem in mezelf, als mezelf.”

Jaren geleden, toen ik begon met het Desteni I Process, was ik erg bezig met me wat meer uitdrukken in waar ik voor sta. Zo kwam er eens een bekende binnen op werk en deze ging iemand nadoen tegenover ons (een collega en ik) op een manier die ik veroordelend vond. Dus zei, ik “nee, zo gaan we dit niet doen, we gaan niet hier anderen achter hun rug lopen nadoen” en vervolgens liep ik weg.

Dit betekende direct het einde van het contact met deze bekende. Diegene voelde zich erg beoordeeld en de uitdrukking op mijn gezicht, deed diegene denken aan hoe een ouder zich vroeger tegenover diegene gedroeg. Oftewel, ik had een herinnering getriggerd bij de ander.

Wat ik bemerkte in mezelf is dat ik mijn woorden uitsprak in een ervaring van angst – angst voor de reactie van de bekende. En dit bestond weer uit een oordeel over hoe de bekende binnenkwam en iemand na ging doen. Tenminste, als ik er nu verder in zie, is het een oordeel op mezelf over dat ik in angst besta om te benoemen wat ik zie gebeuren. En dit zelfoordeel waarin ik in en als angst besta, is hetgeen wat ik mee stuur in mijn woorden, terwijl de woorden op zichzelf, woorden zijn van eenheid en gelijkheid, namelijk, niet praten/roddelen over een ander achter iemands rug om en hier grapjes om maken (zonder dat het een doel heeft tot zelfinzicht; we kunnen wel een situatie bespreken en de rol en gedrag van een ander hierin benoemen, echter dan om tot zelfbegrip te komen, dus waarin we onze eigen reacties, gedrag, motivatie enzovoort, bekijken en terughalen naar onszelf).

Dus, de de angstenergie en het geprojecteerde oordeel hierin, was hetgeen dat mee resoneerde in mijn woorden en wellicht zelfs het enige wat werd opgepakt. Met alle gevolgen van dien, namelijk dat het hele contact ophield te bestaan.

En was dat niet tevens wat ik eigenlijk overbracht, als gekoppelde boodschap zonder woorden? Namelijk dat die bekende zich of moest corrigeren, of beter weg kon gaan. Diegene ‘moest maar weg’. Dus ik stond niet in begrip in de schoenen van een ander, maar was vanuit mijn schoenen bezig om ‘zo snel mogelijk’ deze situatie op te lossen: ik zag dat het niet oké was om zo over anderen te spreken achter de rug om (het was al vaker gebeurd in andere situaties door deze bekende en ik had al vaker geprobeerd dit indirect te benoemen en te bekijken op een manier waarin we onszelf/onze eigen reacties ‘onder de loep’ nemen in plaats van de ander), echter ik ervoer veel angst om dit te benoemen maar ik kon het ook niet langer verzwijgen, vanuit kennis en informatie gezien en zo probeerde ik het zo snel mogelijk over te brengen ‘om er vanaf te zijn’ en niet zozeer om werkelijk de bekende te ondersteunen om dit praten over anderen te stoppen.

Hoe neem ik waar dat ik vanuit een beginpunt van angst spreek?

Ten eerste was de reactie van de bekende opvallend en op zichzelf al een reden om in mezelf, te onderzoeken wat ik heb uitgesproken en hoe ik dit gedaan heb, wie ik was in die woorden. Ten tweede merkte ik het al aan de manier waarop ik wegliep; dat ik wegliep eigenlijk, was op zich al een teken dat ik niet in mijn woorden stond en tevens ervoer ik in mezelf een soort van boosheid, bedruktheid, verbolgenheid over hoe de bekende binnenkwam en een ander na ging doen (waarin ik later vernam dat het uitgangspunt van de bekende om dit te doen, niet hatelijk of vervelend was; dus werkelijk, misschien lag het hele punt grotendeels bij mij en het projecteren van mijn kennis en informatie over ‘wat hoort en wat niet hoort’, van principes, zonder zelf in en als dit principe van eenheid en gelijkheid aanwezig te zijn).

Hoe ga ik hier vervolgens mee om?

Het is eerst de energie van mijn reactie laten zakken, zodat ik niet mezelf ga verdedigen tegenover mezelf en probeer te valideren wat ik gedaan heb door hetgeen wat de bekende deed, te gebruiken en bestempelen als ‘niet goed’. Zolang ik probeer ‘gelijk te krijgen’ binnenin mezelf in waarom ik iets doe/deed, kom ik niet tot eenheid en gelijkheid van de onderliggende ‘agenda’ of energetische aanhechtingen. Hoelang dit duurt, zal afhankelijk zijn van waar het om gaat en waar ik ben in mijn proces van zelfeerlijkheid.

Als ik in staat ben om te stoppen met ‘het bekijken en beoordelen wat de ander doet’ en puur in mezelf zie wat ik in dat moment zou kunnen veranderen en wie ik ben in dat moment, los van wat de ander ook doet dat wel of niet ‘oké’ is, geef ik mezelf de kans om in een ervaring van schaamte over te komen mezelf, van echte schaamte real shame – over wie ik ben in dat moment en in de woorden die ik uitspreek. Dit is het keerpunt; hier blijf ik even met mezelf aanwezig, meestal alleen met mezelf, dan lukt me dit het beste.

Op een gegeven moment zal deze ervaring afnemen, variërend van enkele minuten tot drie dagen zoals ik weleens heb meegemaakt. Dit ervaar ik als een kwetsbare periode en hierin trek ik me het liefst terug; echter naarmate ik er meer comfortabel mee word, kan ik het ook delen met iemand die dicht bij me staat en tevens op dezelfde manier naar zichzelf kijkt/wil kijken en kunnen we er zelfs om lachen. Echter vaak gebeurt dit achteraf, dit lachen erom en dan is het geen weglachen maar meer een lachen om de absurditeit waarin ik dan besta of bestaan heb.

Tijdens deze periode pas ik zelfvergeving toe op de ervaring en op hetgeen ik ‘gedaan’ heb, op wie ik was in dat moment en op wat ik ermee wilde bereiken, mijn ‘geheime agenda’ hierin die ik onbewust had uitgespeeld. Als alles uiteindelijk rustig is in mij, is het zien hoe dit op te pakken. Vaak opent de situatie zich vanzelf weer doordat ik verantwoordelijkheid heb genomen voor mezelf en die onderliggende, energetische aanhechtingen, die er nu af zijn en ik dit dus niet meer mee stuur in mijn woorden; ik resoneer niet meer op deze energie en breng dit dus ook niet meer over. Soms is het nodig een excuus in woorden uit te drukken, echter dit hangt van de situatie af. Het grootste excuus is de zelfvergeving met hierna de zelfcorrectie.

Deze zelfcorrectie bestaat er dan uit dat ik een volgend moment dat eenzelfde ervaring in mij opkomt waarin ik wil gaan spreken, ik dit bij mezelf houd en eerst de energetische aanhechtingen vergeef in mezelf. Doe ik precies hetzelfde als voorheen, dan heb ik nog werk te doen met een onderliggende programmering en/of voorprogrammering die ik niet effectief vergeven/begrepen heb. Is het nog aanwezig maar minder sterk, dan zit ik op de juiste weg en is het ook een oefenen en toepassen in het dagelijks leven om meer zekerheid te krijgen in mijn zelfuitdrukking.

In een volgend blog zal ik zelfvergevingen uitschrijven op bovenstaande situatie.


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Dag 785 – Wie ben ik in de woorden die ik spreek?

Het uitspreken van woorden is één van de aspecten waarin we onszelf uitdrukken als fysiek wezen, in deze fysieke wereld. Dit is iets wat de meesten van ons heel normaal vinden, echter we hebben nog niet, nog nooit eigenlijk, werkelijk geleerd hoe ontzettend uitgebreid dit gebied is en hoe we hierin feitelijk de gehele wereld ‘creëren’.

Het is meer een gebied waarin we vaak automatisch ‘aangaan’ en er woorden uit onze mond rollen in reactie of anticipatie op iets wat zich binnen of buiten ons afspeelt, in verleden, heden of toekomst. We kunnen er ook heel ‘bewust’ voor kiezen om onszelf in woorden uit te drukken en kiezen dan bijvoorbeeld ‘positieve’ bewoordingen om een goed gevoel over te brengen, in de hoop en verwachting dat deze ‘intentie’ dit positieve ook werkelijk voortbrengt.

Er zitten zoveel lagen in onszelf die we niet onderzocht hebben en die ‘mee resoneren’ in de woorden die we (automatisch of bewust) uitspreken. En dit is een dimensie die we over het algemeen over het hoofd zien, aangezien we dit niet waarnemen. Het komt echter wel ‘naar ons terug’; vaak in ‘reactie’ van een ander en vervolgens, begrijpen we niet waar die ‘reactie’ vandaan komt.

Ik heb vaak in mezelf gezien dat als er een reactie komt van een ander die ik niet begrijp en waar ik dan vervolgens weer op reageer (in mezelf of in woorden/gedrag naar de buitenwereld), dat er dan dimensies, aspecten in mezelf zijn waar ik me niet gewaar van was, dus die ik niet eerder heb waargenomen binnenin en als mezelf. Deze aspecten/dimensies, resoneren door in mijn woorden als een ‘energetisch aanhangsel’ zou je kunnen zeggen. Dit energetische aanhangsel is wat als eerste wordt opgepakt door een ander, als en wanneer een ander evenzo niet werkelijk waarneemt wat er gebeurt – wat meestal zo is, aangezien we nog erg veel aanwezig zijn in onze geest, in gedachten, ideëen, oordelen, aannames, verwachtingen, gevoelens, emoties enzovoort en we dus door een soort van filter ‘horen’ en interpreteren, in plaats van dat we werkelijk lichamelijk/fysiek aanwezig zijn en waarnemen wat echt en reëel is en welke woorden er gesproken (of geschreven) worden.

Wat er dan gebeurt, is dat de ander ‘reageert’ op mijn woorden zonder werkelijk de woorden te horen die ik uitspreek. Eigenlijk vangt een ander de resonantie op die ik ‘mee stuur’ in mijn woorden; resonantie als dit energetisch aanhangsel dat ‘meetrilt’ in hetgeen ik wil uitdrukken en waarbij ik nog gevoelens en emoties ervaar of waarin ik nog ideeën, oordelen, verwachtingen, opinies enzovoort heb aangehecht in/als mezelf.

Wat bedoel ik hier met ‘in/als mezelf’? Hiermee bedoel ik dat, als ik iets uitdruk in woorden waaraan ik in mezelf, nog allerlei onopgeloste en/of ongeziene herinneringen heb gekoppeld; dat ik ‘als mezelf’, deze herinneringen mee stuur in mijn uitgesproken woorden. Dus ik sta niet gelijk aan de woorden die ik spreek, in en als mezelf, maar ik ben nog een soort van ‘ongezien’ aanwezig in een gekoppelde herinnering, in de vorm van een emotie, gevoel, idee, oordeel, verwachting  enzovoort. Dus ik ‘hou vast’ aan iets wat ik niet zie in mezelf en dit resoneert mee in de woorden die ik uitspreek en die ik een soort van ‘geladen’ heb met deze herinnering. Vaak op onbewust niveau, dus ik heb niet direct door dat ik dit doe.

Waar ik uiteindelijk heen wil, is dat ik gelijk sta in/als mezelf, in en als gewaarzijn van mezelf. Waarin ik verantwoordelijkheid heb genomen (of ga nemen zodra ik het waarneem) voor wie ik ben in de woorden die ik uitspreek en voor alles wat er eventueel meereist in mijn woorden, om vervolgens te kunnen richting geven aan mezelf in wie ik wil zijn in de woorden die ik uitspreek (dank Sylvie voor deze aanvulling).

Dit is een heel proces zoals nu wel duidelijk wordt in bovenstaande omschrijving en over het algemeen, neigen we naar een opgeven voordat we begonnen zijn hierin, aangezien het onbegonnen werk lijkt en het tevens onbekend gebied is. En toch is dit wat er gewandeld moet worden en waartoe ik in mezelf een verbintenis gemaakt heb om stapje voor stapje te wandelen, door alle fasen van opgeven heen, hoe langzaam ook.

In het volgende blog zal ik een voorbeeld beschrijven van een situatie waar ik energetische aanhechtingen mee stuur in mijn woorden en hoe ik waarneem dat dit gebeurt en hoe ik hier vervolgens mee omga binnenin mezelf. Alles natuurlijk beschreven van waaruit ik nu ben in dit proces en van wat ik waarneem in mezelf, als mezelf.

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Dag 782 – The experience of depression opening up

Continuing on Dag 781 – How I have experienced ‘depression’ in my life

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After my twenties I started to bring down the going out and alcohol intake, up to now very rarely drinking a glass of wine. However with doing so, I had many years where I needed to find other ways to ‘relax from myself’ in a way and to for a moment ‘let go’. Which I must say, I did not really succeed in for quite some years. And so I did experience quite some moments of heaviness during my thirties.

If I look now at this ‘heaviness’, the first word that comes up in me related to this experience is ‘self-conscious’.

Like being too self-conscious, too conscious of myself, in what I say or not say, do or not do. Like I have locked myself in within my own consciousness focussed on my self and feeling ‘stuck’ in this, like a rabbit freezing in the light of a car. And this is what I could let go for a moment with going out and using some alcohol and hanging around, laughing and speaking with friends or dancing.

During my high-school years I had a best friend, and I went to her almost every day and with her I speaked about what was bothering me and she always sheered me up and supported me to relevate and when going back home, I felt better. But when getting older, everyone started to ‘build their own life’ and creating families and so the friendships were less shared and only coming together by ‘appointment’. And these years between 25-35, I have experienced the most struggling within myself because I could not really get up with the natural life-path of creating a family. And many of my ‘friends’ started to get involved in relationships and creating a family, where I could not relate to them so much anymore and I started to ‘feel better’ alone by myself or with others who walked a bit of a uncommon path.

Within this period I have learned to not scare as ‘resist’ the periods of depression and emotions coming up. I lived in a beautiful area within nature and with many birds outside around and I found peace and sense in a more nature-connected way of living. I noticed that a depression – the ‘experienced one’ as how I describe in my previous blog and not the clinical/physical ingrained one – is passing by. And this goes best if I am not running away for this experience, but ‘letting it in’ and investigate what is involved. It seems and feels like it goes on forever, but I have learned that it passes by and when and as I feel that it is pulling me down too much, I will ask for support.

The most frightening experiemnce in it I find that ‘I do not like anything anymore’. I have been in a period where I find I was drowning too much in a sadness and ‘not liking anything anymore’, where I went out for support – during that days I went to a couple who worked with series of Dutch flower remedies – and the lady simply said to me, without pointing it out too much but more in between other things that she was looking had – that I needed to find what I did like before and the way in which she mentioned this, immediately made me taking this in as something that is here and that I need to pick up. So not in a way of questioning it, like ‘is there anything that you like?’; but without any doubt or questioning within so as ‘data’, as something that is here. So she brought me back here actually and I immediately could find some simple things that I like.

When writing this, an experience is coming up of loosing myself, loosing control in a way over myself so I see that this experience that I had during using extacy (described in the previous blog), is still existing within me. It is like I access it while writing about this subject, which indicates for me that it is here to open up; I brought it here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel like loosing control, loosing myself, as if I am not able to direct myself but that I need to follow this experience and as if I ‘need’ to loose myself to find myself, which may be true, however I do have the ability to direct myself with words, with actions, with being here in my body and so I do not need to stay and drown in this directlessness.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe I need another to get me out of my own consciousness and at the same time, feel like I loose my directlessness when and as I am with others, which then in a way is a ‘lock in‘ from myself in my own mind consciousness system in a way that I did not see before as so ‘severe’ as so pertinent present.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not have seen, realized and understand the severity of my own mind-consciousness system and the lock in of myself in it, where I did understand the severity due to how the world exists today and also how we each contribute and are part of it; however really seeing it within and as myself is a different story as I easily avoid to see how it really exists within and as me.

I also see another situation coming forward where I feared to experience a depression. It was when I was pregnant (before the abortion, see blog-serie) and here I feared a post-natale depression. Sylvie brought up that the experience of ‘depression’ may be related to attention more than to control. I will look into this for myself and how it is related, as it seems to be related to a fear of loosing attention in future periods. What I more and more start seeing within myself (so from knowledge and information towards seeing it existing within and as myself), is how the ‘attention’ and energy within this, is in essence related to money and/or sexuality in/as the mind and the question and opportunity within this (of how) to move beyond this, into ‘myself’ and towards and into self-expression.

This experience slowly opens up more and is still existing within me, so cool that I am bringing the topic here.

To be continued.

 


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Dag 778 – Am I originally / inherently good or do ‘I within’ need self-direction as well?

In a blog-serie last year I have written a lot about my walk through the years of fertility and what I have faced and found during this period. I have also described how I have diminished myself in a decision where in I did not give myself the time to consider all dimensions within myself and so not without as well, which has lead to consequences. Not persé that the decision in itself was ‘a bad decision’ but more the not considering was what I see that I have hurted myself with (and others as an outflow of this).

I am now walking through a phase where in I for the first time, start pushing through my ‘natural’ protection-mechanism as a ‘barriére’ so to speak. And I am quite surprised to see how strong the self-sabotage is coming up in this. Self-sabotage meaning, in several moments coming up a strong idea that I ‘need to get out of this’ and go back to my well-known confortable area in and as myself and so, in and as my life. Also here to say that this is not ‘bad’ or something and it served me very well to keep myself stable and strengthening myself in my tasks and responsibilities, but more that I see that there is an unknown area waiting from which I do not know the outcome and so actually, from which I do need to let go of the control of ‘already knowing where to go’ more or less and walking day by day and creating along the way with the opportunities opening up in this time-frame.

And this is exactly what I have been avoiding, for example in the example of decision making in the years of fertility, where in the new area felt so completely unsafe and me not yet having the skills and (self)-support to walk into it and so, I backed of, I pulled back. It very well possible, may have been the right decision in that moment, in which I have prevented myself and others, for a real ‘loosing of control’ or direction so to speak – I will never know,  but more based on what I see how much I lack in and as self-direction in this specific area of relationships and fertility and only by now, starting to opening up to be able to start to apply myself more directed.

I would like to give this as an example and these series that I have written and spoken as well, of how strong a self-limitation can come up and how realistic it may present itself, with all kind of reasonings that may be valid or not and even if the reasonings are ‘catched’ and made invalid within myself, still I surprisingly find ‘myself as a reason’ to not move forward and beyond the old, to stay in my well-known area of who I have been all these years before and probably many life-times before. So ‘the me within’ is not already shaped and done and developped as my utmost potential so as in so many spiritual trends is stated, as if inside we are already ‘good’. I find now that this is not the case; also ‘the me within’ is very much influenced and programmed and protective based.

What does very well support me in this is looking at the practical situation, the stability and possibilities and the effect of my decisions on others as well and with what decision I can stand in eternity, no matter what the final outcome is. So basicely, to keep standing within principle and integrity, is what is of support for myself to not go off track and to keep standing and moving and following up on what I have initiated and walked so far. Also when doubts, hesitations, reasons, preferences, emotions and even physical manifestations are coming up, then I have my point of cross-reference in/as myself: with what can I stand in eternity for and as myself in what is here in this moment and situation? Not as an absolute outcome for allways but as what is best right now and from here, walking from moment to moment and in consideration of how the mind can or may present itself (and so I within and as, because it is me in the end who decides) almost turned around, as a turned around projection of what is best; as a negative of a picture that needs to be developped with chemicals.

Considering all aspects that I see involved, within and without,putting a guard for my mouth to not speak in a way that create unneccessary consequences and to first seeing what is needed to forgive and correct within myself and what is real and practical and physical possible and from here, carefully moving forward into the direction that is physically opening up.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to somehow think and believe that if my intentions are good, that I am then ‘good’ as well, instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that good intentions alone can give the opposite outcome in physical reality if and when I do not fully understand the functioning and programming of myself in/and/as my mind and within and as my beingness as well and how this is then actually me creating or participating in an evil outcome in and as this physical reality and if and when I am not willing to really look at this, I disable myself to forgive and correct my inherent evil nature that I am hiding within and behind good intentions.

I commit myself to discover, forgive and correct my good intentions and the ‘evil’ that is hiding behind it, in and as myself as the opposite of ‘life’ (as for example in self-interest, judgements and fears) and I commit myself in this way to enable myself to consider the physical, practical circumstances as well as the principles and integrity of Life itself as for example ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you’, as a guideline to create an outcome that is aligned with my potential to be and become a considering and trustable, living human being.

Bernard gave me the subject of ‘Paranoia in and as the intention of the New Age Movement‘ to write some blogs about in 2012 and I took this on (written in Dutch), however only by now, I start seeing it within myself and how I was/am holding on onto good intentions (and/as paranoia) within and as myself and keeping a backdoor open within this. During those time, he has assisted me with a few points that I am still walking and that I will write about more in time to come, as it is fascinating to see how his support (representing Life itself) stretches out over years and this to fully grasp what he was pointing out, to take on and walk through the programming within and as myself.

So far for now; thanks for reading.


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