Dag 716 – 4. Understanding the obsession

This blog is related to record 4: Understanding the obsession

For context and playlist see: Dag 710 – Reflection on the years of fertility

The self-forgiveness are written as if it is happening in current time, however it are self-forgiveness on a pattern that I am reflecting back on and now taking responsibility for.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not really see realize and understand how ‘a biological clock ticking’ consists of an obsession but more believe that it is real and that it is okay to live this out because it is part of myself (as a biological programming as a human in/as a female body but that I was not aware of during that time).

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow myself to live out a part of my biological programming without considering that this programming is not who I really am.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to excuse my obsessive behaviour with the fact that the ‘biological clock’ – as a limited period of time where in reproduction is possible – is part of how the human physical body is functioning in it’s part of reproduction.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow myself to become obsessive because of not taking responsibility for my thoughts, emotions and feelings that are related coming up to relationships and reproduction.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to because of my thoughts, emotions and feelings coming up within me, related to relationships and reproduction, to actually ‘follow up’ these thoughts, emotions and feelings with actions without considering that what I am following up on in myself, is not really who I am.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to completely scare myself and create panic within believing that I should have a child and for having a child, I need a relationship and if I cannot find a relationship, then I should look for other ways to have and raise a child of myself and so within this belief, not taking responsibility for this belief in itself and for who I am within and thus, creating and participating in, living in and as this obsession.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make an obsession of myself and my life without really, seeing, realizingnand understanding what I am doing to myself as life and life as a whole.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not have seen the reproduction cycle clearly for what it is as a  practical and physical system of bringing forward life which brings a huge responsibility to educate and walk with this new life until it is able to stand in and as itself as a responsible, living being.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have approached the bringing forward of a new life without seeing the total responsibility in it but more have experienced it as ‘something that I would like to experience’ and so, from a starting-point of self-interest to feed myself from with experiences, which in itself is what an obsession is: longing for an experience with the purpose of wanting to experience the fulfillment of the experience itself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that the cycle of reprodution is what ‘life’ is about and what ‘life’ is, instead of realizing, seeing and understanding that the reproduction system and the cycle that it is functioning in and as, is the system that brings forward new life but it is not ‘life’ itself.

When and as I see myself having a desire and see myself ‘longing for an experiemce, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I have channeled a part of myself in this desire in and as the furure as something that I need to reach and ‘reach out for’ and because of channeling myself in this desire (in the future, because a desire is projected in the future), I am not completely here within and as myself and so, I am missing a part of myself where in I actually ‘desire’ this part of myself in a way to become whole with, or I am ‘longing for’ this part of myself to unite myself with and as and because it is channeled in a particular thought or experience, created as an projected idea in the future, I follow this desire.

I commit myself to forgive myself for misunderstanding my motivation for my ‘desire’ and the energetic experiences that I generate out of this projected idea as desire.

I commit myself to stop the ‘obsession of longing for an experience of wanting to experience the fulfillment of the experience itself. I commit myself to take responsibility for what I desire and to see what I have projected that is real as ‘me’ within this desire and bring myself back here.

I commit myself to support myself with bringing myself back here with the support of finding a word that I can live here as myself in the moment.

I commit myself to redefine the word desire and make it a word that contains a practical self-support.


Previous blog: 3. Obsession

Next blog: 5. Menstruation cycle

Proces van zelfverandering:
www.lite.desteniiprocess.com  GRATIS ONLINE CURSUS MET BUDDY(Ook in het Nederlands!)

Zelfeducatie free:
De Kronieken van Jezus

Journey to Life – Reis naar Leven:
7 jaar dagelijks schrijven – Dag 1 – Van ziel naar Leven
video: 2012: Nothingness – The 7 year process Birthing Self as Life
Ingrid’s Desteni Witness Blog

The Secret to Self-Realisation:


Proces van wereldverandering:

Uil forgive

Dag 292 – Expressie en de Darm – Decision Making, Free Choise and Money.

mmm I am a little bit lost as for the last month I wrote out 4 trigger characters as characters and this writing is finished for now, so….what’s next? lol.

I was in a shopping centre for furnish with my mother. I needed some small stuff. As often happens, it took me a long time to ‘choose’. I find choosing very difficult.

My mother said, it’s exactly the same as when you were younger. I said yes, there are so many options, so many choises to make. Yes she said, too many choises.

With regards to education and health issues, I have never hesitated long, I know exactly which way to go, what is really supportive for myself and my body within this. No matter if I have challenges within this, I will push through. Not doing this is simple not an option. Also choises in work did go well.

With regards to buying things, I hesitate a long time. It is always related to money, as I have to balance out what I like and how much money I have available.

With regards to relationships, I never seem to make a real choise in this. And if I do so, the other person is not really making a choise, which is somehow reflecting this point, and still no choise and/or stand is made in this.

I still am hesitating about a choise that I made last year and already am walking, which is living alone again. Lol, I cannot change it anymore, and still am hesitating in my mind. How bizar.

Life Review – My life of Co-Dependency

With regards to ‘having’ children, I have hesitated for about 10 years, and I did not get them. There were some situations, that if I really wanted it, I could have stepped in and make it possible. It was maybe not perfect, but a good option with practical possibilities. I did not, and on the road I started to understand why not, as the systems within myself, within the family, within society, within the scholing, I bumped on, and I could not make the decision because I did not want to pass on to the child what I was experiencing within myself, and I was having doubts about myself, standing for a child within the system as how it exists now, as I am within myself, existing as a system that I do not yet fully understand.

So, it seems that money, and the systems within myself, are keeping me away from making a real choice, a real stand, from decision making. Money and Systems, which are actually the same, existing Within as the Mind Consiousness System and existing Without as the World Money System. Both unequal to Life, as what is best for All. So seperated in unequality, in seperation from myself, I get lost in all the free choices that can be made, seems to need to be made.

Around this I build up hesitations, doubts, resistances, dislikes. Which are confusing me and in which I keep myself locked up in self-interest in/as judgements, which again makes it difficult to make a stand. And even that is a judgement again.

So I start with writing out some related subjects with applying self-forgiveness on all the judgements that I have created in it,  and within this investigating how money and free choise are related to this.

DAY 376: Experiential Reality Guidelines to Self-Honesty

The Soul of Money 

DAY 1: Who I Am as Money

De serie Expressie en de Darm begint bij Dag 232  – (inclusief Disclaimer)


Proces van zelfverandering:
www.lite.desteniiprocess.com  GRATIS ONLINE CURSUS MET BUDDY
Mogelijkheid tot wereldverandering met gelijke kansen voor ieder-een:
Proces van relatie naar agreement:
Zelfeducatie waarin financiele ondersteuning voor een wereld in gelijkheid:
Zelfeducatie free:
Journey to Life:
7 jaar dagelijks schrijven
7 jaar dagelijks schrijven – Dag 1 – Van ziel naar Leven
video: 2012: Nothingness – The 7 year process Birthing Self as Life
De Desteni Boodschap – Wat doen we ermee?