Dag 746 – 25. Can a decision be wrong or right?

This blog is related to record 25: Can a decision be wrong or right?

For context and playlist see: Dag 710 – Reflection on the years of fertility

The self-forgiveness are written as if it is happening in current time, however it are self-forgiveness on a pattern that I am reflecting back on and now taking responsibility for.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look at decisions or actually ‘choices’ in the past as if it was ‘wrong or right’ where in I then again go into a polarity where in I see that the whole situation is actually not coming from a starting-point of consideration and care of all aspects within myself and so not ‘best for all participants’ so from here, I create a situation where in I need to make a decision that, whatever I ‘choose’ to do, it will have consequences in some way, because my starting-point was not aligned within and as self-care and care for life as a whole.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a ‘wrong and right’ outcome through already being separated within and as my starting-point when and as I am coming from a point of self-interest, in which I can only exist if and when I have separated myself from myself, from life, from self-care and from care for life as a whole, meaning, when I have separated myself from considering all aspects and participants before moving myself in a certain direction.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not stand with myself in where I am at a certain moment within my process and instead, start judging my choices and actions in the past as being ‘right or wrong’ and so, keeping myself within a state of judgement for longer than necessary, instead of immediately going into self-forgiveness and so taking responsibility for myself within the separation that I exist in, in and as the mind in a certain moment.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to sabotage myself and keeping myself victimized, within judging my choices and decisions in the past, instead of using the consequences to face myself from a point of self-support and so, immediate and when I am able to, going into the living of self-forgiveness as an understanding of myself and where I come from and within doing so, I take responsibility for myself within the separation that I exist and existed in – separation in thoughts, words and deeds – and within this expansion of self-responsibility, I create a platform for myself to from now on do it different and with more and more consideration for myself in all aspects and for life as a whole in all aspects.

When and as I see myself going into searching for a ‘wrong or right’ for choices I have made in the past, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I here lengthen my own process as it does not make sense to create a polarity (in judging something as ‘wrong or right’) within myself from what I already existed in as a polarity.

I commit myself to find the point within myself that I did not consider myself in all aspects and life as a whole (or all participants) and where in I have influenced my starting-point into a state of separation as well and I commit myself to be self-honest within this, to face the dark aspects of self-interest, of fear, of protection and defence-mechanism that I have created as a way to try to control my environment and from here, to unconditionally forgive myself and embrace the shame and when I have been able to, to then unconditionally let it go so that I can move on within this new and expanded expression of responsibility within and as myself.

When and as I see myself searching for ‘what to do’ within a decision-making and then looking for what is ‘wrong or right’ in this, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I am not totally clear within myself on where I stand or that I am not yet able to stand for what I see that is best for myself in all aspects.

I commit myself to embrace myself within the fear and control-mechanisms that I have created and to forgive myself unconditionally in what I see as a ‘weakness’ within me to from here, move through the experiences of fear and control in every day life, step by step, moment by moment and in every moment again, seeing what is best to do, to say or maybe to not do and say and I commit myself to support myself in this through receiving perspectives from others as well, as a support and cross-reference for myself in where I stand.

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Dag 741 – Can I learn to empathize?

Certain people are ‘by nature’ more empathic than others. It can be so because of how one has grown up; it can be pre-programmed. This doesn’t automatically mean that one is doing ‘what is best for all’ as then again, one can be for example ‘over-empathizing’ and forget to take care of oneself.

However, what if you notice that you do not really be emphatic by nature and so, noticing that this has consequences for others and for self as well? What if you ‘don’t feel’ what it means to be empathic, if you do not ‘feel’ what others may need for example and so, easily walk over others without even noticing?

I can start with an example of myself in this. I can say that I am empathic by nature, I also am a female, who often have learned to develop some empathic qualities. However I have also noticed an aspect within myself where I easily and automatically, could let someone ‘drop down’ or ‘fall down’, within the thought/believe that some can or should take care of that aspect within themselves, without looking further within their nature for example and seeing if they may need some support in this.

Within this, I did not ‘feel’ that I ‘wanted to help’, coming from a starting-point that we each should take care of ‘our own business’, as how I have developped this within myself. What I did feel in this, is quilt, for not being helpful enough, for not giving enough, although no one really had said such things to me. It was more existing on a subtile level where I somehow saw that I could do more but I did not (want to) do this and did also not know how to take this on. With the consequence that I also found it more difficult to receive ‘help’ from others as I found that I did not deserve this (because I was not giving it eather).

So this gave a subtile conflict within myself on the background that was interfering within my social interaction and communication in many ways.

I have in real time walked a path to correct this; first with animals, where I for years, have taken care of quinea pigs and rabbits that became older and needed a lot of support where I had ‘to give it my all’ to get them through as long as possible. I also have walked a relationship with someone who needed a lot of support that I ‘did not feel like giving’ and that I actually ‘did not really want’. But, I did, because then I already understood what it means to start walking by principle. Understanding meaning that I understood the theory of this.

With the animals, I had to step out of an experience of feeling paralized and not being able to take action, also related to a limited amount of money to spend for physical support and from here, not knowing where to start when an animal became ill for example. I have walked many situations with these beings and it was amazing to do this. What was supporting me here, is that I did want to do it for the animals as I really and naturally ‘like’ the animals but I had to step over idea’s of ‘how much you spend and do for an animal like a rabbit or a quinea pig’. Strange idea’s, as if these little animals deserve less care than a bigger animal or a human being. But there was also a fear of ‘not having enough for myself’ in this as a point of self-interest existing within me.

Within the relationship, I learned to walk it because I could see the consequences of what would happen if I would not do the best I could and especially I learned how this would reflect back on me within myself, staying busy with doubts and questions about myself, where experiences of guilt were keeping me busy and eventually ending up within the need to ‘go back and correct myself’ and do it over again. We can also call this a ‘timeloop’. I mainly experienced this whole pattern as a ‘fear of loss’ within me and so, the ‘fear of loss’ did have been the motivation to push myself to do better and still does in many moments – to eventually and while doing so, come to a point of creation, free from this experience inside myself.

But, I did not do this because it felt natural or because I naturally wanted this. I did do this because I had learned – while walking this relationship – what it means to walk in principle and I saw I could do better. So I did not need to ‘feel’ it but could make the decision to walk it anyway, to support another (and so myself) where I can within my capacity and of course from a starting-point of common sense,  to not ‘help’ another with things that another need to learn for self but to support where another did not yet have developped an effective application and where I did not have developped this as well and so, ‘supporting another’ was/is the development in itself for myself as self-support.

This is the great thing about principled living, that in the end, the self-support is supporting another and supporting another, is supporting self.

Why am I writing this blog?

To bring forward that if and when we do understand what it means to walk by principle and when and as we have made the decision within ourself to stand by this and do and develop this every day again, that it is possible to learn for example what it means to live ‘empathy’, not because we ‘feel empathy inside ourselves’ and whatever this may mean, but from a starting-point of ‘giving as you would like to receive’ and ‘considering another’ from a starting-point of principled living within equality and oneness, where every living being deserves to be treated with support where needed and where self-honestly possible.

When I had walk through all of this (it took several years all together), I did came back to my self-will about what I want, within my life, within a relationship and with who I want to walk this, while testing what is practically possible and taking the time to see who I am willing to stand by and walk with as myself and who is willing to do the same with me. However I did have to let go of personal preferences for several years, to be able to stand up and keep standing within my utmost potential and the challenges that this gives every day.

So, empathy does not so much contain an experience or a feeling – although it can be a starting-point for those who do experience this naturally. Empathy can be practically learned and applied within a starting-point of principled living as what is best for all. These principles, they can be described, tested and cross-referenced within a self-agreement and from this agreement with and as self, it can be expanded towards an ‘agreement’ with others (family, friends, colleques, intimate relationships), as simply ‘rules’ that are considering all participants in a way that does not leave anyone behind without being heard or seen but at the same time, supporting each other to create a self-responsibility and self-dependency where needed, to be and become able to stand on our own two feet.

There is much more detail to write about this empathy. Here is a link where one can start walking this agreement within and as self, by first understanding the theory of how we actually function as a human being and also a link to a document where the basic-principles are described and commited to stand by. Without this support, I would not have been able to stabilize and grow as how I did so far and I am very much still learning and expanding in this, still with the support that is available within Desteni and that is practical and applyable in our every day live.


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Dag 732 – 16. Shame and compromising

This blog is related to record 16: Shame and compromising

For context and playlist see: Dag 710 – Reflection on the years of fertility

The self-forgiveness are written as if it is happening in current time, however it are self-forgiveness on a pattern that I am reflecting back on and now taking responsibility for.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience shame for the steps I have taken and compromised myself – as well as others – within where in I in that time, have used it as a justification that it is ‘normal’ to have this biological clock ticking and so, I allowed myself to continue following my thoughts, feelings and emotions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel ashamed about asking someone that I know from the past to donate, where in I am coming from an unclear starting-point and mixed up with self-interest to ‘have something from that someone’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to hide my face in my hands because of shame, where in at the same time I can also laugh about it within seeing how far I can go beyond my real self-respect, in trying to fulfill my own purpose without checking all dimensions within myself and then turning this ‘shamelessness’ into some kind of ‘strength’ as in ‘not being afraid to ask for what I would like’, where in I see a dimension of wanting the attention.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go far for attention and when not doing so, feeling like something dies within me or even as if I die by experiencing myself as not being seen.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience myself as not been seen and for this, asking for attention in different kind of ways beyond my real self-respect and integrity and so within this, compromising myself and my integrity within, as and by myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have manifested a physical experience as consequence of forwardly ‘fold myself in two’ within and as my own body, within compromising myself and going beyond my real self-respect and integrity, all for attention that feels so real in that period of time and from here, compromising my own stand within and as my physical body, in and as myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create my own experience of real shame by compromising my own stand, my own real self-respect and integrity, by following my thoughts, feelings and emotions as a (biological integrated) program within and as myself and my physical body, instead of stepping back and really looking at all dimensions within and as myself that I do notice but not really want to listen to.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to – as shown in the above self-forgiveness statements – deliberately ignore my own integrety and self-respect within trying to fulfill a preferenced picture within me, instead of firstly investigating all dimensions and from here, seeing how I can work with all domensions that I see within myself, making peace with it and seeing how to create the best possible situation for myself and others as well.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to play out this ‘trying to fulfill a goal’ so that I at least could say to myself, ‘hey I have tried and I am not to blame if it does not work out’ where in I was playing it out with ‘hesitation’ and so what eventually manifested, was this hesitation within and as myself as the outcome.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to from here see how I was playing it out only for the experience and to keep myself busy with it, as I did not know another effective way of ‘dealing’ with it and I was so distracted by it that I could not focus for a longer time on other dimensions, as somehow it felt like ‘I have to fulfill this goal first’ before I am able to focus on other dimensions within my life, as this felt as if I would ‘loose’ this one goal if and when I would ‘let it go’ as in focussing on other area’s, where in at that time, I was not aware of the application of self-forgiveness as the tool to really’ let go’ of something as in making peace with it through understanding the whole mechanism within and as myself as the mind playing out in and as this phytsical reality.

When and as I see myself participating in an experience of shame, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I face something within myself where in I have compromised myself that I did not yet take responsibility for, so this is the moment to do so. I also realize that here, I can immediately take responsibility for the experience of shame as well within the self-support of self-forgiveness and that I do not need to stay in it, only as long as I need to forgive myself and understand myself in this specific compromising behaviour so that from here, I change myself and prevent myself from going into the compromising behaviour again.

I commit myself to face myself within a compromising pattern or behaviour and I commit myself to be self-honest and take responsibility for my part of self-interest that I participate in and have lived out and from here, move myself out of the real shame for compromising myself and/as others as well within the specific point that I face and from here I commit myself to prefent myself from going into this pattern again and instead, consider all dimensions that I see within myself and clearing my starting-point before taking action or living out a certain (biological/physical integrated) behaviour and clearing my starting-point.

When and as I see myself going into a state of ‘recklessness’ of ‘not being ashamed of what I say or do’, I stop and breathe.

I realize that here, I create an opposite experience within my mind as an excuse or justification to walk a certain compromising pattern or behaviour as a way to try to fulfill a specific goal, without firstly investigating all dimensions within me.

I commit myself to be careful with myself and others and firstly investigate my starting-point when and as I see something that I would like to fulfill and from here, move myself breath by breath and investigate what is coming up within me and what is living within others that are involved and what the practical possibilities are as well.

I commit myself to let go of certain goals to fulfil and instead, live my utmost potential as my purpose within my daily life and so step by step, breath by breaht, see what I can create, coming from a starting-point of self-respect and integrity and considering life as a whole, as what is best for all, in short-term and/or long-term, depending on the possibilities and context.

When and as I see myself experiencing a fear of loss, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I fear to loose some attention as idea to create energy that I hold within me. I also realize that the experience of fear of loss is very much layered and so I need to walk through this layer by layer through time, forgiving myself for all the specific experiences that are connected and related.

I commit myself to within the moment of fear of loss, see what I practically can walk, if I need to do some steps in this physical reality to walk through and if this is possible in that moment and situation, where in I consider others that are involved and check if the ‘walking through’ will support them as well, or that I need to go to writing and bring it back to myself in this way and only for myself so that I can live the correction after this.

I commit myself to layer by layer, walk through the physical manifestation of the experience of fear of loss and within this, stand up for and as myself, in self-respect and integrity and as well as support for others in self-respect and integrity, when and as possible.

The Secret to Self-Realization:

(…) You will do Self Forgiveness and Write Every day, but without SHAME – you will Not Change, and it will All be in VAIN. Even PAIN will not Change Humanity. It will Only Be SHAME. SHAME will be the First REAL Physical Feeling, and Once You Change – You Rebirth as Life, you will Learn to FEEL for Real and be Really Alive.
Those that are of the Illusion as CONsciousness, can Feel No Shame! The Only Shame they Know is the Shame the System use to Keep one Enslaved. Real Shame is a Physical Realisation that Will Remain WITH You, As You, ‘TILL YOU CHANGE!

The NICE thing about SHAME, is that it is a Real Time Indicator as to Where you Are in Your Process. NO Shame yet, NO Change yet.
But, do Not Stop Self Forgiveness. Realise, that initially – Self-Forgiveness is Removing the Layers of Self Deception and suddenly, Shame will be HERE – then the Journey to Change Start. Then the Outcome is Certain. You WILL be Reborn as Life. (…)

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Dag 724 – 12. Learning what consequence is

 

This blog is related to record 12: Learning what consequence is

For context and playlist see: Dag 710 – Reflection on the years of fertility

The self-forgiveness are written as if it is happening in current time, however it are self-forgiveness on a pattern that I am reflecting back on and now taking responsibility for.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to already had in mind somehow to do it all alone without firstly align and ground myself within a relationship where in we could both stand the test of time.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, because of already had in mind somewhere to do it all alone, this ‘plan of action’ was activated by some words of the male and so me using this words as some kind of ‘proof’ that this is what I have to do and can do, that this is somehow ‘okay’ to do, without seeing, realizing and understanding that this is actually me within my mind, manipulating words (of doubt) from another, towards using this for my self-interest within this ‘plan of action’ that I had hidden as a secret within my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to place my responsibility in a way, on the other by using his words as a reason and justification, as some sort of ‘sign’ that I now can start my ‘secret plan of action’ without considering the whole situation that I and the male are involved in.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become stuck within myself within conflict because of taking action from a point of self-interest in a situation that was not grounded at all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to jump to an outcome as doing it all alone bacause not having a program ready of how to effectively build a relationship as how is best for both/best for all and from here, somehow thinking and believing that I will never able to do so and at the same time, knowing that it should be possible and that it is within my potential.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to now only see and learn what consequenses are for myself within relationships and how they end, however it took me many more years to really consider all and every aspect including the effect of my decisions on others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to from here on think and believe that ‘I am responsible for myself and another is responsible for him/herself’ and so within this, not considering to take responsibility as well for others involved as much as it is within my awareness and when and as another is not yet be able to do so because of having les awareness in that moment, it is up to me to step in and direct.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that ‘it was his responsibility to step in with me’ which it is in the end, however missing out here on the consequense of my words and actions for another as well and not only for me.

When and as I see myself participating in a fear of stepping forward and express what I see as consequence and responsibility within another’, I stop and breathe.

I realize that it is also my responsibility to speak up, to step forward and support another to learn what consequence is, this within my ability and awareness in that certain moment.

I commit myself to bring my fear back to myself, to see and forgive what the fear as judgement is and from here, see how I can best step forward and speak or show some awareness in a way that another is able to understand.

When and as I see myself participating in a thought-pattern, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I create consequenses for myself within my physical body that are not needed or doing any good.

I commit myself to step by step, walk and forgive the layering of fear within me, to write it out, to name, understand and forgive myself until I am able to stand more clear and stable within myself with regards to relationships and patterns of fear of loss and standing alone.

When and as I see myself not knowing how to move forward within a certain point within a relationship, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I do not have an effective program ready and so, I need to create a real and lasting solution from here on from within myself, which feel like ‘impossible’ because I have never done it before.

I commit myself to move myself into the unknown field, to step by step create a solution by using the tools of writing, self-forgiveness, self-correction, cross-referencing with others/support from others and considering the aspects that I can see within myself and so slowly, build the ground and stability within myself, within my life and within the relationship with another and with others in general.

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Dag 717 – 5. Menstruation cycle

This blog is related to record 5: Menstruation cycle

For context and playlist see: Dag 710 – Reflection on the years of fertility

The self-forgiveness are written as if it is happening in current time, however it are self-forgiveness on a pattern that I am reflecting back on and now taking responsibility for.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to need to push myself to share this intimate details that were actually part of my secret mind during thet time that it took place that I am describing here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel ashamed about what secretely happened within myself in thoughts, feelings and emotions with regards to my fertility.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to share this, also in the past, but not completely, as I always hold a small part for myself that I could ‘play with’ and fill in for myself without anyone knowing and so, without anyone being able to have influence on.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to keep a backdoor open for myself as a place where I can make ‘my own decisions’ with regards to fertility and having a child or not.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use my investigation of my menstruation cycle as a tool to make small shifts within myself and ‘challenge the possibilities of nature so to speak, without being fully aware of my own direction and decisions in this as a guideline of what will happen or not with regards to fertility and having a child or not – in consideration ofcourse of the biological and physical abilities.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to mix up my influence by not really being aware of how I am directing myself and placing part of my responsibility ‘outside myself’ and at the same time, keeping a ‘secret mind’ as secret area where in I am very well aware of myself manipulating an outcome that only I am fully informed of.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have unsafe intercourse where in I ‘wish’ that I can then become pregnant without the need to fully take responsibility for this decision and so, being able to decide to perhaps ‘become pregnant’ in a situation that is not stable and ready.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use my female role and female body with the ability to become pregnant, as a way to slightly manipulate a male by informing the male about how I approach the menstraution cycle but not completely about what is going on within me with regards to my menstruation cycle and thoughts about pregnancy and so, use his ‘approval’ about what I did share, as a reason and justification to move on with what I have within my secret mind that I have not completely shared.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate with leaving out some information that I have within myself in secret thoughts.

When and as I see myself leaving out some information that is actually vital and of importance, I stop and breathe.

I realize that I am hiding something and so, that I fear ‘loosing’ this something if I share it, meaning, that I loose the possibility to ‘live this’ when and as another may not agree on it. I realize that within this, there as self-interest involved where in I am not open to cross-reference the possibility in a way to see if it is really best for all or that it may need some adaptation. I realize that within this, I ‘fear’ that I am not ‘listened to’ and that ‘what I want/would like’ may not be considered and so, I rather choose to keep it a secret and play it out in a way that it is already manifested in physical reality and so, I can not be crossed anymore. I realize that I think in such moment that ‘this self-interest is best for me’, where in I did not consider, investigate and cross-reference all outcomes and where in I actually did not consider myself as life in all outcomes but only ‘me’ in/as the mind in self-interest, in my limited version of my desires, simply because this is the only thing that I ‘know’ from and as myself.

I commit myself to take the time to investigate, consider and cross-reference all outcomes while walking something that I see as a possibility but where in I tend to keep information for myself and within this, consider myself as life in all outcomes.

I commit myself to forgive myself my wishes and desires that is existing within myself in a situation where in I am keeping information for myself and to take the time to embrace myself in this and let go what I see that is not best for myself and  so, not best for everyone who is involved and to move on with that what is giving an outcome where in life is considered, from/as myself and others who are involved in a situation.

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Dag 651 – Is human nature corrupt and if it is, how can we change this?

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Let’s have a look at the very small examples of corruption that takes place on a daily base within the aspect of corruption as briberay. We know the corruption world-wide that has to do with using money to get something done that the one with the (most) money wants, without considering if this is best for all that are involved in/as life. So corruption here can be described as an action of self-interest, within the interest of one or a very few.

How is it that we ourselves use corruption in our daily life? Isn’t it so that we are all familiar with corruption from a very young age? As for example a promise of a desert if we first eat our meal, or the promise of a candy if we co-operate with a task that needs to ben done. This is actually a form of bribary with a reward in it. It is not teaching us why it is best that the meal should be finished or why it is best that the task should be done and it has also no possibility within to see for the child itself, what the responsibility is within. It learns for example that ‘I will finish my meal for a nice desert’ or ‘I will co-operate so that I can have a candy’ which is a limited reward-system actually.

Here we see that corruption entails a ‘reward’ without considering the consequenses from doing this in a ‘corrupt’ way – corrupt meaning, not considering the responsibility that needs to be learned and lived, if we do want a result that is considering life as a whole and all that is involved.

Then what is here the solution? The solution is not so easy because these small examples of corruption (with the use of rewards involved) are often related to a lack of time to teach, to make mistakes, to co-operate, to make a nice meal from certain food or to investigate why a meal is not finished and find solutions for this, because many of us has to run to make money to survive, which can also be seen as a ‘reward’ within a – more or less – corrupted system. So we are all involved into this corrupted system related to some form of reward of ‘no money no life’ and this needs to be turned around to make this world a better place for all. Not to judge or ban each and every ‘reward’ in itself, but more to learn and see what a reward-system is actually build from, so that it can be used from a starting-point of common sense and in consideration of what it entails.

A way to start with this is to start recognizing this pattern within ourselves and then not go into self-judgements, but going into a self-forgiveness of participating in a corrupt system within and as ourselves. The fact that we participate within corruption in and as ourselves (or easily being tempted to participate) may sound cruel at first, but if we really see direct and with common sense, we all have to come to the conclusion that this world is build of relationships and relationships are formed by human beings and human beings, that are you and me.

So, saying that ‘we have nothing to do with how the world exist today’ is not grounded within common sense but more based on ignorance of how each of us is responsible for how this world exist today, most of us through a passive acceptance and allowance more than an active creating. We are all participating in it through money, electricity and water for example so we are part of it and we are inter-related within this physical existance on earth. From here we can see a bit further into human nature, and if we really do this within ourselves within self-honesty (so beyond the corruption as dishonesty as how the mind functions), we will see that how the world-system exists today, is a reflection of how we exist within ourselves, each one of us, in different aspects that all together ‘create’ the outside world, through relationships.

A solution to start with is to start within the very small, within ourselves and learn to see how we are using corruption to get what we want, to reach a certain goal without consideration of the whole and what is best, but more from limitations and hiding behind excuses as ‘having no time’ but also from a point of ‘really not knowing how to do it differently’ because we didnot learn this, we did not get the support that we all needed and need.

It’s time to teach and support ourselves to create relationships that are best for all and everything that is involved, as this includes ourselves. Meaning, that if we do something from a starting-point of self-interest, it eventually is also not best for ourselves but compromising ourselves in the way we compromise others. We are part of the relationship, we cannot exclude ourselves from this. The ones with a lot of money can still do so, that is where corruption is used on a large scale. However no one will have a narrow excape in the very end, although it might seem so for a while or even for a longer time. But corruption, it is actually done from a pretty limited view and it ignores how we are all inter-related and it’s definitely not getting the most potential up and rising within this world, within each human being and within and as life in general.

Corruption is used as a way of control or as a way to seemingly get out of the control; without seeing, realizing and understanding that within using the same ‘control-mechanism’ as corruption is that we want to get away from, we still limit and control ourselves within and as this very control-mechanim that we use and apply.

Only if something is actually strong and wise, control is used as a mechanism to suppress the strength and wisdom within, to suppress the expression of life actually. So realizing this, we can also start realizing that there must be something more within ourselves, within each one of us, if control is used on such a large scale.

There is  a very effective and structured way to open up these control-mechanisms first within ourselves, to understand and forgive ourselves within and from here, make room for correction, within ourselves/within the relationship with ourselves, from here within the relationship with those around us and so eventually spreading out, to the relationships that the world-system is build of.

It is not the whole picture ofcourse because the world-money system is very intriged and build as a closed system, so there are changes needed on a very large scale. However, one can start within self, simply because someone has to start and only each one of us can make this decision for oneself to do so.

Investigate this free online-course to stand up for /within oneself, within the recognizing of the potential that each human being (and life as a whole) can be. Which, if we will be able to (together) build a world from this utmost potential as what is best for All as Life, is the greatest Reward that one can imagine.

“There is Help, there is Support – if you Dare to Investigate. So, start with DIP LITE – it is Free, with a buddy to Help you to Break through some of the Points. But it will require Extensive Study. Whenever somebody claims they are Enlightened, know one thing: Enlightenment was part of the Script, Enlightenment isn’t Real. You cannot become Enlightened, from the perspective of some form of Consciousness – because, that will Separate you from your Responsibility as Life and you will Never be Self-Honest about what you really do.”

“Do Investigate, Test Self-Forgiveness, get to Understand Self-Honesty. Do Not Listen to your Thoughts, and your Feelings and your Emotions – they are your Guards of your Jail Cell. You are just in a Prison, ‘Pry Son’ – you are the Son of your own Design, you are the Creator, you are Playing God. But all of this Playing God, is all an Illusion of Self-Interest – where you Place your Interest before Life. That is Unacceptable.”

See also: Part 4Part 3Part 2Part 1
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Dag 633 – Migration – Is there a long-term and lasting solution?

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There are many aspects of migration from human beings from one country to another that can be investigated. A situation that most takes place is that in countries where there are more opportunities to build a decent life; people will migrate to these countries from other countries where there is less to none opportunity to build a decent life for oneself and their family.

Within the countries that are more opportunities, many people react more or less to migrants coming in. Here it is already a flag-point for oneself, that if one react to people coming to the country one lives in, there is fear involved as how the reaction is showing. Why fear?

Basicely we fear for ourselves that we do not have enough money (to buy food and water, housing, health-care, education) to live from. Basicely we fear that we physically will not be able to live and if more people are coming in, there is less to divide, as a simple calculation that we have learned at school.

What we did not learn at school is to see into solutions of how to live with limited resources here on earth and how to co-operate within this from a point of what is best for all, which can be applied within the principle of ‘give as you would like to receive’. It is teached to some of us from a religious point, however there are important missing links in the religious teachings of Jesus as how it is brought into this world and so, many turn their back on the basic living principles that are mentioned within but that are not of any count on long term as what is best for all, as long as there is not a total insight in ourselves and the world-system in who we are and how we are living under the influence of the religious illusion of God/The Mind/Self-Interest in relation to Money.

So, we can state here that we have learned what the problem is (limited recources that when devided with more people, one will have less) without being educated to find and apply solutions that are best for all. So we are educated from a point of fear because a problem without solution, gives and/or confirms the experience of fear within ourselves.

Fear is not a good adviser. But we all believe that we have to live from this starting-point of fear because that is how we are educated from a very young age, from birth. And this is how we are controled within ourselves, by ourselves in/as fear and by the money-system that is build from this point of fear, to create friction and conflict that is obviously coming forward when one has to divide limited recources from a point of fear that ‘one has less when things have to be divided with more’ without being teached how to live within equality and oneness, meaning to divide all that we have from a point of co-operation in consideration and support of all live on earth.

We can discuss this very widely, however everyone knows that this is the situation that we are living in at the moment. And it is only getting worse. So we all do see the problem.

From here, when we look into this question: is it a long-term solution that is best for all living beings here on earth, to react to migration and become angry at the ones who try to move to another country because there might be some better circumstances to build a life there? Here we do neither need to discuss the answer widely because here also everyone can answer this very quickly for oneself: no it is not a long term solution that is best for all life here on earth. It is based on fear of having too little and actually based on fear of others (projected on the migrants) taking everything and ‘taking over’, as this is how we have learned what will happen from a starting-point of fear.

Here we come back to the basic-line that we are not well educated from birth of how to live practically on earth with limited recourses in a way that is best for all. We only learned how to ‘get what you can get and/or protect what one has because there is not enough and otherwise others will take it’. Where we know that the ‘others’ are also teached to get what you can get and/or protect what one has because otherwise others will take it. And this is deeply ingrained within ourselves, within and as the mind consciousness system and it is deeply ingrained in how the world-system/money-system is set up.

So yes, we can state that we do have a problem. But that does not mean that there is no solution possible that is long-term and best for all.

The solution is not to be find instantly. As we see how we are educated over years and this for generations long, one can imagine that it also takes years to change this within ourselves and within the world. And the first step in this can be to see in our own reactions of fear towards people coming to your country – ‘your country’ as the country that one is born in/living in’ as it is not ‘your ownership’ that no other has access to. It is a strange thing actually that people have to move from one country to another because it is not livible in the country that one is born/living in. It is unacceptable.

So a solution that is long-term and best for all, will be to make it livible for all inhabitants in every country and to exchange recourses with other countries to come to the best possible basic-needs to create a dignified life for all on earth. Here, again, every one can see in common sense that this is the only long-term and lasting solution that is best for all and that in the end, will stop the fear of ‘not having enough and/or having less than others/others taking over the access to the recourses’. A long term solution will be to give as we would like to receive and this applied by all/most of us.

We do all see this but most do not see how to come to a long-term and lasting solution that is best for all and so we give up before we even start to investigate and apply the very small steps that are needed to eventually, make a change in this world in how we exist. And true, there is so much hold in control within the world-system as how it is set up and from here, accepted and allowed to exist by every human being, that it seems impossible to change. In fact the control of the resources has been taken over long time ago. And from here, it seems better to ‘make the best of it’ with what one have and protect this the best possible way for oneself and ones siblings and some others nearby, under this state of control.

Here I suggest to start with stopping the fear, the resistance, the reactions in oneself and to investigate where these reactions are actually coming from. This is the ‘control’ that one can start investigating, within oneself.  From a starting-point of fear we will not be able to find solutions. There is a part of the fear that is reality-based – as we do live with limited recourses and how the world exists today, we can be sure that we will not receive our ‘equal share’ so to speak. There is also a non-realistic-part and/or a part based on future-projections and “what-if statements” where we only take ourselves in consideration in a lot of things that we actually do not directly need physically but that we do not want to ‘loose’ and share with others. And so here, we are ‘to be feared by others’ because we are not/no longer willing to live as what is best for all and give what we would like to receive ourselves. So self-honest self-introspection, self-forgiveness and self-change is definitely needed here.

If we all do what is within our ability in this, within ourselves and/or without in the system, in the positions that we are living in and within the area that we do have an influence on, this will already support with creating a ripple-effect to stand up for a world that does no longer need migration from a point of survival and where eventually, migration can become an expansion and sharing of different cultures where we will be welcomed in another country. Wouldn’t that be a great way to exist, live and share?

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Some ways to start investigating how the world-system without and our mind consciousness system within, are set up and actually so much more inter-related than we have ever truly realized:

Desteni I Process (individual process with practical tools to apply to step by step change ourselves into living beings who are willing and able to do what is best for all – including a FREE COURSE online in English and Dutch)

Living Income Guaranteed (possible solutions as transition fase to a world that is best for all)

(One can click on the links in the text to find interviews for self-education)

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7 jaar dagelijks schrijven – Dag 1 – Van ziel naar Leven
video: 2012: Nothingness – The 7 year process Birthing Self as Life
Ingrid’s Desteni Witness Blog
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The Secret to Self-Realisation:

http://creationsjourneytolife.blogspot.com/2013/02/day-311-secret-to-self-realisation.html

Proces van wereldverandering:
http://bigpolitiek.blogspot.nl/
http://livingincome.me/wiki/The_Living_Income_Guaranteed_Proposal
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